20多岁最后悔做的5件事情
1.Letting the party go on a little too long Sure, your 20s is usually a life period where you're pretty free of responsibilities, and many of us use that time to enjoy life and go a little wild. But take this too far and you will regret it, warn a number of Quora users. 2.Living the life your parents want for you, not the one you want One of the top regrets of seniors is following others' expectations for their life rather than their own dreams and preferences. Apparently, there's a particular flavor of this problem that's common as early as your 20s--living out your parents' aspirations, not your own. 3.Working on a relationship before you work on yourself According to both everyday wisdom and reams of research, love is central to happiness. But you can't really form a quality relationship with someone else until you have your own self sorted, caution several Quora respondents. Rush things and you'll just end up in a regrettable muddle. 4.Confusing a job and a career Your 20s are almost always a decade of professional growth. Several respondents cautioned that you can slow that process if you're not clear with yourself about the value of any particular gig. For some folks that means investing too much in a rent-paying gig they aren't passionate about. For others it means failing to see to it that their current job or interest could and should be built into a real career. You can regret either under- or overinvesting in your work, the lesson seems to be. What you won't regret is being clear-eyed about your longer-term professional trajectory and whether today's effort is serving your goals, whatever they may be. 5.Not exercising Your body is at its peak when you're young. Keep it healthy, or you'll soon regret it. Bonus tip:Letting fear of regret hold you back As an end note, it's also worth pointing out that while plenty of Quora members had regrets from their 20s to share, many others stressed that being too concerned about not making mistakes can paralyze you, keeping you from necessary experimentation and learning in your youth. Don't let fear of regret keep you from trying and failing constructively, this group stresses. It's a healthy dose of perspective--keep these regrets in mind to try to avoid them, but don't be held back by your fear of screwing up. Inevitably you will. Most of the time not only will you survive your misstep, but you'll also come out a better person. What's your top regret from your 20s? |