这8种迹象表明,你喜欢的他只把你当朋友
1. You always make the first move You've gone to the movies, grabbed coffee, and even hit up an amusement park together. You had a fantastic time together and you can't wait to do it again. That's when you realize, though, that he's never the one extending an invite. If he's never initiating contact with you, he might be trying to send a message that he's not looking for a romantic relationship. He might be more than willing to tag along as a buddy, though! Pro tip: Take a break from reaching out if you're always the one making the first move. Either he will miss you and hit you up or your adventures will come to an end. It's better to know, right? 2. He talks up his friends When it's time to meet up, you make a real effort to put your best foot forward. You've showered and feel confident, you've got great things to talk about, and you easily establish that you're a pretty great catch. Why, then, is he talking about his friends? If it feels like he's playing matchmaker and suggests that you meet some of his boys, that's really not a good sign. Pro tip: Ask him to describe the kind of guy that he thinks is perfect for you. If it's the opposite of who he is, you've got your answer. 3. You hang out in groups You've been dreaming of a little one-on-one time with your crush. You can't wait to have him alone so that you can build up the courage to tell him how you feel and see if there's any hope for a future together. The problem is, though, that every time you make plans, he brings an entourage! If he's surrounded by a group of friends whenever you're together, he might be putting you in the friend zone. Pro tip: Invite him to do something that is clearly meant for two people and see what he says. If he balks or mentions how much better it would be if you went as a group, he probably doesn't want to be alone with you. 4. Your relationship is text-based Maybe you're in a position where you wish you could actually see your crush under any circumstances — even if it's with a group of 50 of your closest friends for breakfast. You just want to see him! When the guy you're interested in is happy to communicate by text but always finds a way to get out of meeting in person, he might not want to take the relationship to the next level. Pro tip: If he doesn't have much of a social life at all, it could just be that this is a really busy time in his life. Let him know you'd love to hang out when he has the time. If he never makes time for you, move on. 5. He talks about other girls It's one thing if you talk about a variety of other people — including exes — during your conversation, but it's another if the guy you like is constantly talking about women he finds attractive or interesting. Pay attention to the tone of these interactions and take them at face value. If he is trying to build a relationship with you, he will focus on getting to know you better instead of wasting time talking about other women. Pro tip: If he's telling you about the dates he's going on, he clearly wants you to know that he's seeing other people. 6. He doesn't make an effort When we like someone, we tend to go that extra mile to impress them. We might brush up on the things that they like, surprise them with their favorite meal, or even just put a little more effort into feeling and looking our best. Does the guy you're into look like he just rolled out of bed every time you see him? Does he forget your interests and let you make all of the plans? Do you feel unimportant? If so, you might want to find a new crush. Pro tip: If you feel like this is a one-sided relationship, even as a friendship, you need to decide whether it's truly worth your time. 7. He refers to you as a friend One of the easiest ways to determine your status is to pay attention to how the guy you like introduces you to his friends. You should also take note of how they react to meeting you. Consider it a positive sign if he uses your first name (bonus points if people seem to have heard of you!), but if he makes a point of referring to you as his "friend," there's a good chance that he doesn't want you to become more than that. Pro tip: If he puts extra emphasis on the fact that you are just friends in front of other women, take the hint. 8. Be open to friendship While it might be disappointing to learn that your crush doesn't share your romantic feelings, don't shut down the possibility of a friendship. If you have things in common and enjoy spending time together, try to see if you can manage your expectations. Of course, if it's too difficult and you find yourself pining over him, you should probably keep your distance. Also, never enter a friendship with the goal of making someone fall for you. Instead, be cool and let things unfold on their own. Besides, who knows who you might find in his circle of friends, right? |