美文赏析:自我厌恶是不幸福的根源
First of all, please think about this question first: Do you have any of these 3 habits? 1. You tend to motivate yourself in negative ways. You may not be a person who already gave up yourself. You always wanna be someone better. It’s just that when you encourage yourself you usually prefer sentence like “Can’t you even do this?” Basically you wish to make yourself work harder by making yourself loathe your present self. 2. It’s really hard for you to let go of your mistakes. You always keep thinking about the mistakes you’ve made and feeling terrible every time you do this. Every inopportune speech you’ve given. Every temper you didn’t manage to control. And every silly thing that you have done. You always can’t help but recall them. And every time you recall them you feel the exact pain you felt back then. 3. You don’t feel comfortable when someone compliments you. You always feel awkward for the credits people give you. Or you usually think they overestimated you. Sometimes you don’t really think yourself as not good enough. You know you’ve done the right thing. You know you deserve recognition. But somehow you still want to find a hole to hide yourself when someone comes and speaks highly of you. If you have any one of the 3 traits above, then you should be careful because there might be a dangerous emotion hiding in your heart. It’s self-loathing. A lot of people see this emotion as a motivation to keep making themselves improving. But in fact it only stops you from developing. It makes you incapable of feeling satisfaction and the sense of accomplishment. And it eventually deprives you of your self-esteem. Sometimes you have to understand the phrases “good enough” and “for now”. It’s not easy to face failures with ease. And I never saw anyone who manages it perfectly. But being afraid of failing is not a reason for giving up. Self-loathing is the root of unhappiness. You can loathe who you were. But please don’t loathe who you are that much. If you really need a motivation, choose hope instead of loathing. |