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You know jealousy only hurts you and your partner - but you're only human, right? Here, experts share their tips for beating the green-eyed monster and strengthening your relationship. Treat Yo' Self "When you're in a good place yourself - thriving in the workplace, living a harmonious home life, good health, experiencing solid spirituality - your heart naturally expands, allowing you to let go of bitterness and jealousy. Living your best life helps you stay open and understanding to the ups and downs of the human condition. This compassion for yourself and others makes you less competitive. Accept yourself the way you are and do things for yourself that make you genuinely happy and fulfilled." -Anjhula Mya Singh Bais, Ph.D., International Psychology Acknowledge and affirm your partner's feelings "To nip jealousy in the bud, first you have to take ownership of your feelings and understand how your behavior impacts your partner. For example, if your partner does not feel good when you stay out late with a co-worker, this doesn't mean that you acquiesce to everything your partner wants. However, it goes a long way when you say to your partner, 'I know that you feel upset with the amount of time and attention that I am giving to this other person. I don't want you to feel that way.' With that statement, you acknowledged how your partner was feeling and you told them that you don't want them to be hurt by your behavior." -Chantel Cohen, owner of CWC Coaching and Therapy in Atlanta, GA Keep a gratitude journal "Jealousy stems from an inherent belief of lack and scarcity, and a feeling of fear and threat. When we make it a point to remember all the things we have to be grateful for, we challenge that assumption of scarcity. By being grateful we realize that no matter what we have experienced in life thus far, on a fundamental level, we have always been ok and will continue to be so. When we change and reframe the script to one of gratitude for the things we have, and the idea that there is plentitude for all, jealously wanes." -Bais |