90后一代压力空前巨大,应该如何缓解压力?
1. Set the right kind of goals Shift your plans, goals and resolutions to an intrinsic orientation. Examples of intrinsic motivations include “I want to be very close to people”, “I want to feel like my life has meaning” and “I want to feel like I’m doing something good for the universe.” For contrast, some extrinsic motivations are “I want to make sure that I’m wealthier than other people” and “I want to be viewed by others as having influence and power.” One helpful exercise is constructing goals around how, specifically, you want to feel at a given time or add value to your company, relationships or the world. 2. Forfeit perfectionism Set achievable goals and embrace surprise if you surpass them. Research exposes that “what really gets the reward circuitry jazzed up isn’t so much the good vibes as it is the extent to which the goodness of the vibes exceed expectations.” 3. Connect Find people who care about you and can help you manage your stress. Nurture those relationships. It is recommended to regularly ask, “Are you too busy to catch up with people? Are you investing into friends and family? Or are you just checking in when it’s convenient for you?” With self-awareness and loved ones to hold us accountable, we can balance ambition for a more fulfilling—yet equally rewarding—life. |