不再有单恋的辛酸:5个方法快速让ta爱上你
A SCIENTIST has unveiled the five best ways to make someone fall in love with you and they’re all really quick and simple to carry out. 有一个科学家找到了5个让别人爱上你的最佳方法,而且实行起来十分简单便捷。 1. Keep eye contact 1. 保持眼神交流 According to American social psychologist, lawyer, and author Zick Rubin’s study people who are in love maintain eye contact 75 per cent of the time. 美国社会心理学家、律师和作家齐克·鲁宾的研究发现,恋爱中的人75%的时间都保持着眼神交流。 And it’s scientifically proven that intimacy increases between people who don’t look away as much and constantly keep eye contact. 科学证据也显示,眼神移开得少、一直保持眼神接触的两人亲密度也会上升。 2. Be a good listener 2. 用心倾听 Studies by the University of Nevada and the University of Washington state listening as an important part of falling in love. 内华达大学和华盛顿大学的研究发现,要让对方爱上你,倾听是很重要的。 We appreciate feeling as though someone is interested in us, who we are, and our experiences, so avoid digressing and turning the conversation back onto you. 当有人对我们感兴趣、想要了解我们的经历时,我们会感到很高兴。所以不要岔开人家的话题,不要把话题引回自己身上。 Wanting to be heard is apparently a primal need, so engage in conversation with people and then try to ask follow up questions. 被聆听是人的根本需要,所以说要参与到别人的谈话中,顺着话题提问题。 3. Validation 3. 认可 The same study also cites validation as a key part to falling in love. Making your partner feel supported directly leads to love. 这个研究也把“认可”列为让对方爱上你的关键因素。让对方感受到你的支持,这会直接让你们堕入爱河。 A person is more likely to love you if they feel as though they’re getting it right. 如果你让对方觉得ta是对的,ta就更有可能会爱上你。 And 48 per cent of failed couples said their relationship broke down because of a lack of appreciation. 48%分手的情侣说他们分手的原因是对方不欣赏自己。 4. Smiling 4. 微笑 This tip is fairly basic but according to a study by Drake University, smiling makes you more attractive and engaging, which is appealing to others. 虽然微笑十分平常,但德雷克大学的研究显示,微笑会让你更有魅力。 It also makes you look more like a winner to other people, which is why it’s an important aspect to falling in love. 微笑还会让你看起来比其他人更成功,所以微笑是让对方爱上你的重要元素。 5. Touching 5. 身体触碰 And finally, touching, according to a study by Harvard University, touching leads to overall satisfaction in relationships. 最后是身体触碰。哈佛大学的研究显示,身体触碰会让双方在整体上对感情感到满意。 Being tactile with someone increases comfort and intimacy, which helps make bonds between people stronger. 身体触碰也会让双方感到更放松,拉近双方距离,使双方的联系更加紧密。 |