常说这3句话，你能成为一个更睿智的人

It's pretty safe to say that we'd all like to come across as well-informed, knowledgeable, and smart. Society values experts and rewards them, so we benefit when we're seen as having a certain level of command in what we do and what we speak about. While it's certainly positive to better ourselves in this regard, it can be a dangerous path to go down if we're focused too much on perceived expertise and intelligence during our interactions with others.

我们都喜欢给人留下见多识广、知识渊博、聪明睿智的印象，这一点不假。我们的社会重视专家，而且专家也能得到回报。因此，当我们在自己所做、所谈的领域有两把刷子的时候，我们是能够得到好处的。在这个方向上不断精进当然是个好事，但是，如果在于别人沟通的过程中太过强调自己的专业程度与智力优越感，那就很危险了。

As we seek to better ourselves in our fields of work, we may notice our vocabulary shifting to defend our newfound status. We don't admit our shortcomings for fear of becoming vulnerable to criticism, and we stop acknowledging others to preserve our own ranking. However, what this behavior turns one into is not an expert but a know-it-all. To avoid becoming the latter, make a conscious effort to continue to implement the following three phrases into your daily interactions. True experts who know their value and don't question their own intelligence use these phrases regularly. It doesn't make them sound unsure or unreliable, it makes them sound smart.

随着我们在专业领域不断精进，我们可能会发现自己遣词造句的方式也跟着变了。为了避免遭受批评，我们拒绝承认自己的不足；为了保全自己的地位，我们不在认可别人。然而，这么做不会让你成为专家，而是一个不懂装懂的人。为了避免成为后者，在日常的交流中不妨多用用下面3个表达方式。真正的专家对自己的价值学识自信笃定，不会因为使用这三个表达而变得妄自菲薄。相反，他们经常使用它们，这不光不会让人觉得专他们含糊其辞、摇摆不定，反而让他们显得更加聪明老练。

1. "What do you think?" Taking the time to consider multiple ideas—especially those of others—shows you're smart enough to do your research. Know-it-alls resist input from others and put themselves in situations where they make more mistakes (and also turn off everyone around them). If you're smart, you'll want to seek out the ideas and opinions of others to better inform your own.

“你的想法是什么？”花点时间考虑下不同的观点？特别是别人的观点。这么做会让人觉得你够聪明，让人觉得你的确能处理好手上的研究任务。不懂装懂的人总是拒绝接受别人的介入，而这让他们自己更容易犯错（也会拖累身边的人）。真正睿智的人会综合考虑别人的观点来使自己的想法更完善。

2. "I was wrong." Know-it-alls let their pride get the best of them and aren't able to admit failure. Recognizing when you've erred, learning from it, and then quickly moving forward is the sign of a truly mature, well-functioning adult. Everyone makes mistakes, and they're necessary to grow and improve."

“我错了。”不懂装懂的人十分自负，从不承认自己的失败。意识到自己的错误，从中汲取经验，然后更好的进步，这才是一个成熟的，懂得为人处世的成年人。每个人都会犯错，儿错误是成长与进步中必须的一部分。

3. Say nothing at all. While this isn't a phrase, choosing when to refrain from speaking is just as important as deciding what to say. Even if you're well-versed in the subject, don't dominate the conversation. Let others speak. You'll learn more from hearing what others have to say and become even smarter.

沉默是金。尽管这并不是中表达方式啦，但是，选择什么时候不说话和选择该说什么一样重要。即使你对一个领域如数家珍，也不要一面倒地霸占整个交流过程。给别人说话的机会，你会从他人的见解中得到启示并成为一个更睿智的人。