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We always convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that we' re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We always tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, and are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time than right now. If not now, when? Our life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to ourselves and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin-real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned onto me that these obstacles were my life. This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment that you have. And remember that time waits for no one. So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school; until you get married, until you get divorced; until you have kids, until your kids leave home; until you start work, until you retire; until you get a new car or home; until spring; until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.... Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So, 我很欣赏艾尔弗雷德·苏泽的一段名言。他说:"长期以来,我都觉得生活--真正的生活似乎即将开始。可是总会遇到某种障碍,如得先完成一些事情。没做完的工作,要奉献的时间,该付的债,等等。之后生活才会开始。最后我醒悟过来了,这些障碍本身就是我的生活。"这一观点让我意识到没有什么通往幸福的道路。幸福本身就是路。所以,珍惜你拥有的每一刻,且记住时不我待,不要再作所谓的等待--等你上完学,等你再回到学校;等你结婚或离婚;等你有了孩子或孩子长大离开家;等你开始工作或等你退休;等你有了新车或新房;等春天来临;等你有幸再来世上走一遭才明白此时此刻最应快乐…… 幸福是一个旅程,不是终点站。所以, |