爸妈不喜欢我男朋友,我该怎么办?
1. Ask them to be honest about why When you find out that your parents hate your boyfriend, your first instinct is, most likely, to get really annoyed, upset, and mad at them. You want to ask how they can possibly say this stuff to you and you might even want to stop talking to them for a few days (or even a few weeks). Even though that's how you really want to act, it's not the best idea right now. They probably have a good reason for saying this to you. Maybe they think that he reminds them of someone that you used to date and that guy wasn't good for you, so they're worried that a similar situation (and a bad break-up) is going to happen again. Maybe they're not sure that he has a good work ethic or that he's close with his family, and those are values that are really important to them. The best thing that you can do in this situation is to listen carefully to what your mom and dad have to say. You have to be open to their opinions and not get angry or refuse to hear them. At the very least, they'll be happy that you're willing to talk to them about this and be such a good listener. 2. Think about whether they have any good points Just because your parents say that they hate your boyfriend doesn't mean that they're right about him… and it doesn't mean that they're wrong, either. What if what they say has some merit to it? What if he really doesn't have a great work ethic or he's fighting with his parents over something silly and insignificant that shouldn't really be messing up their relationship? It can be tough to remember, but you can think that a new relationship is super great and all rainbows and butterflies and the people close to you can see the real story of what is actually going on. This is definitely why you wonder why your friends or relatives can't figure out a problem that they're having when it seems so clear to you what decision they should be making. |