不再和别人比较的8大好心态
Awareness.Most often we do these social comparisons without realizing we're doing it. It's a natural act, I suppose, and as a result it's something that is done without consciousness. So the solution is to become conscious — bring these thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being on the lookout for them. If you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it gets much easier with practice, and soon it'll be hard not to notice. 注意它。我们经常没有意识到这种比较的发生,我认为这是自然行为,这是由于有些行为是无意识的。所以解决办法是注意它,有意识的留意这种思想出现时的意识变化。如果坚持一段时间注意这种意识的变化,那么想不注意都不行了,也就容易实践了。 Stop yourself.Once you realize you're doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. Don't berate yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus. Count your blessings.A better focus is on what you do have, on what you are already blessed with. Count what you have, not what you don't. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all. Focus on your strengths.Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Don't brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage. Be OK with imperfection.No one is perfect — intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don't reach perfection. You aren't perfect and you never will be. I certainly am not, and I've learned to be OK with that. Sure, keep trying to improve, but don't think you'll ever be the "perfect person". If you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect. 释怀那些不完美。事实上,我们都知道没有人是完美的,但是情感上当没有达到完美时我们会感觉不好。你不完美,而且永远也不会完美,我当然也是,但我学会了释怀那些不完美。当然,继续努力,但不要总想着你永远不会完美这件事。如果你能从另一个角度看待它,其实是这些缺点让你成为今天的你,这本身就是完美的。 Don't knock others down.Sometimes we try to criticize others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. It forms an enemy when you could be forming a friend. In the end, that hurts you as well. Instead, try to support others in their success — that will lead to more success on your part. Focus on the journey.Don't focus on how you rank in comparison to others — life is not a competition. It's a journey. We are all on a journey, to find something, to become something, to learn, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have. It has everything to do with what we want to do, and where we want to go. That's all you need to worry about. 注重过程。不要在意你在比较中的排名,生活不是竞赛,而是一段旅程。我们都在生活中寻找,努力,学习,创造。别人所拥有和取得的对我们自己的旅程都不重要,自己想要做什么或想去哪才是最重要的,这才是生活要考虑和关注的问题。 Learn to love enough.If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. That's an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness. No matter how many clothes you buy, no matter how many houses you own (seven, in the case of one famous candidate), no matter how many fancy cars you acquire … you'll never have enough. Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough. If you have shelter over your head, food on the table, clothes on your back, and people who love you, you are blessed. You have enough. Anything you have over and above that — and let's admit that all of us reading this blog have more than that — is more than enough. Be good with that, and you'll find contentment.更多信息请访问:http://www.engbus.cn/
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