只言片语谈恋爱
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Whatever I am writing - is based on my personal experience with life. It’s just like life has become a book or certification for me. Similar I found with Mr. M K Gandhi "The Father of Nation? India". He wrote about his experience with truth. I am inspired because writing is best way to express all your feelings that you can’t do elsewhere. Till date? I am unmarried. I have just started my career as an associate consultant. I believe consultant acts as a confusing mechanism to a client. Provide options not a decision. Well I am straightforward and honest. I have doubt to what extend and how long will I continue with all falsehood of business. Anyway this is expression time.
My elder sister is a center of my life. I never find absence of love, friendship or guardian till I am with my sister. Once I was far? The first letter I learned was "L" and word was "Love". Even you start loving your age girl in your college days. It is becoming fashion! Get a bike? Girl friend is free. Cost is only petrol. You be at Canteen, no class, all types of festivals and days in campus. Sometime I was worried about my common man inside. I never did in my graduation. I had given lift only to one girl who was my enemy but by default she was a member of my industrial project study. Well I have not so many words to express my love and friendship. You generally express what you have rather you missed. Right? First of all I dislike thinking about love as any physical act. What we call romanticism. Romeo and Juliet? A Great Love Story. Well it was. But it is our style to misunderstand everything. (I may also do same thing!) But Thomas Moore says, "Romantic love is an illusion. Most of us discover this truth at the end of a love affair or else when the sweet emotions of love lead us into marriage and then turn down their flames." I 100 % agree with the statement.
At this moment? I get another tragedy. Few of my friends were really in deep love. I don’t know its meaning please! Graduation was over. Those who were unable to create their future，including them too. There is a French proverb: "Love makes the time pass. Time makes love pass." It is ok to love someone else if you know how to love yourself first! Understand love first. Love is not a girl for a friend and vice versa. It is not a feeling. It is not an attraction. Definitely love is not a time pass at all. It is really tough to define love for one. We all have different meanings of love. It depends on psychology of different minds. For any Road to Romeo? Seating on cross roads and looking passionately thinking all nightmare dreams is love. For any highly knowledgeable studying at college impressing classmates and taking city round just like a guide is a love. For any typical clerk marrying a caste girl and seating on seashore? Planning future having number of children is true love. So many examples!
On the same situation Leo Tolstoy says "If so many men, so many minds, certainly so many hearts, so many kinds of love." Well let me express few words on my experience. My love is always based on expectation of true friendship. For most of people family love may be messy, clinging, and of an annoying and repetitive pattern. But it is not of my case. I find true meaning of love when I put my first step far from my sister. You know - Sisters touch your heart in ways no other could. Sisters share... their hopes, their fears, their love, everything they have. Real friendship springs from their special bonds. My weakness is I easily fall in love. And probably I love to write on love although I have been a poor unsuccessful story. But I am one of the luckiest fellows who have got love since birth in advance.
I always look a person like my sister in a girl whom I love. Sorry I am attaching love with girl. Love has no physical entity. Still let’s take a girl, my age girl. 2-3 years above and down difference is ok. Out of my life’s six choices, most of which are "Salwar Kameez" (an Indian dress material) just like my sister. They were bold enough to talk at the same time able to understand situation. In short similar to my sister. What does it mean? We love people on the basis of some attributes. Even you check out with your experience. Most of us will agree with me finding same attributes or characteristics in a person whom we loved.
I don’t know what is Love? I don’t know what is Friendship? I don’t know anything? I just want a person who can understand my feelings，my nature，my problems and me. If I want to meet her or if I want to talk to her, I don’t need a reason. Why do I insist to get my love that can marry me？ because I will not need a permission of her husband if I want to talk to her. We rarely understand but always feel it that love，friend and marriage have least degree of control on over physical body rather our mind. Your love is your strength. It is the basis of your existence. "Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal means of escape from the loneliness that afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives." Says Bertrand Russell.
Your love may hurt you any day, as everything that comes has to go. Even my sister will get married one day. My friend whom I loved said she wished to be, as friends rather love. I am happy because she talks to me whenever I need. I have not done anything for her. There are many people who dislike me where I have few people who like me without any reason. We always need to thank for giving such beautiful and kind relations in life. If you are in age of 12 to 28, you will feel it. Once you pass it, you will understand the reality that I don’t know yet. Well if you are meeting to your true love today, convey my best wishes! 不管我写什么文章--那都是我根据我个人的生活阅历写出来的。对我而言，写作就和生活一样，因此生活也成了一本书或者是一个证明。我发现我和“印度国父”甘地先生一样--他写的个人经历也都是真实的。我写作时很有灵感，因为写作是表达感情的最好方法。 直到约会？因为我还没有结婚。我已经开始了我的职业生涯--做助理咨询顾问工作。我们向客户提供选择而不是决策，所以对客户来说，我认为咨询师做的这工作很让人困惑。而我这人又为人诚实，性格直爽。我不知道该拓展什么，还有，那些生意上的虚伪何时能才够结束。不管怎么说，那都是一段让我印象深刻的时期。 姐姐在我生命中很重要，和姐姐在一起，我从来没有缺少过爱情、友情和保护。可是我一走远后？从第一封信中我懂得的是"L", 而这个单词就是" Love "。甚至在你上大学时，你刚开始爱上一个比你大的女孩--这很时髦。买辆自行车？可女朋友是不花钱的，要花钱的话也只不过是花点汽油费。没有课的时候，你们或许在餐厅，或者是参加学校里的各种各样的节日庆祝活动。 有时，我挺担心我内心世界里的那个普通人--我自己，不过，我没有在我毕业的时候那样做。我只顺便捎带一个女孩，她还是我的敌人，可碰巧她还是我的工业项目研究的一个成员。 我没有太多的言语来表达我内心的爱情和友谊，而你们通常所表达的是你们拥有的而不是你们失去的，对吧？ 关键是我不喜欢有人把爱情说成是肢体行为的看法，那我们认为什么才是浪漫的呢，是罗密欧和朱利叶浪漫故事？他们的爱情确实是伟大的。然而，我们总是这样错误理解，也许，我也犯了同样的错误！托马斯·莫尔说：“浪漫的爱情只是一个虚幻。很多人到他们结束一段感情，或者是走向婚姻，或者是他们爱情的火焰熄灭的时候，他们才明白这个道理。” 我是100%同意他的这种说法的。 这个时候？我又碰到了不幸的事了。我有几个朋友正在热恋，天那，我真不知道恋爱是什么东西！毕业过去了，可恋爱并不能够给他们的未来带来什么--还有他们自己。法国有一条谚语说：“爱情打发时间，时间打发爱情。” 如果你都知道怎么爱自己，那么再去爱别人的话，那当然很好了。谈恋爱不是一个女孩追一个男孩，也不是一个男孩追一个女孩。恋爱不是一段感情，也不是一种吸引，确切地说，爱情并不是虚度光阴。 我们地区的一个地方有个说法是：“绝对不要为了一趟公共汽车，一列火车，或者是一个女孩而等待。如果你错过了，另一个会出现的。” 可是，绅士们你们看看，“你们正在做什么呢？”你们必须追到一个。 说实在的，真的很难确定到底爱不爱一个人。我们对爱情都有不同的定义，而且，这还要看下一个人的心理因素。为了条条大道通向你的罗密欧？坐在十字路口，心血澎湃地张望，还有白日梦里的所有东西都是爱情。在大学，想更加深入地了解漂亮的同学，就像导游似的在市里瞎转，这些也是爱情。一个典型的员工娶到一位有地位的女孩，或者是坐在海滩上？想以后有很多孩子也是真正的爱情，这样的典型太多了！ 就此，列夫·托尔斯泰说：“不同的人，不同的思想，不同的心地，造就不同的爱情。” 现在我就我的经历来说几句话吧。我的爱情总是建立在友情的希望基础之上，也许，大多数家庭的爱情存在着一团糟，相互依附，烦恼和反复的状态。但是，那不关我的事，我是在我第一次离开姐姐的时候，我才体会到爱情的真正含义。 真正的友情来自特殊的关系。大家都明白--姐姐是最更了解我们的人，她们把她们的希望、担忧和爱情等所有事都和我们一起分享。 我的缺点就是很容易陷入爱情的深渊。尽管我的恋爱故事都不怎么成功，可是我还是很喜欢写写我的爱情故事。出生后，我就很早拥有了一份爱情，我还算是一个很幸运的家伙。 我总是想找一个我喜欢的，而且像我姐姐那样的女孩。不好意思，我正在和一个女孩谈恋爱。恋爱没有肌肤之亲，让我们都找到一个女孩吧，比我大两三岁或小两三岁都可以。我的生命有六个选择，大多数都是“沙丽克米兹”（“沙丽克米兹”是一款印度服装），像我姐姐一样。为了能明白一个问题，她们在同一时间说话时都很勇敢，简而言之，他们都很像我姐姐。 这是什么意思呢？因为他们的某些特点，我们爱上他们，甚至你查点下你的经历后，你都会同意我的看法--我们爱的人有一些与众不同的特点和个性。 我不知道什么是爱情？也不知道什么是友谊？我什么都不知道。我只知道我想要一个了解我情感、脾气、缺点和我的人。如果我想和她说话，想见她，也不需要任何理由。我之所以一直在寻找一个可以嫁给我的爱人，是因为如果我想和她说话的话，这并不需要她丈夫的许可。 我们真的不懂，可我们还总是认为爱情、友谊和婚姻在肉体控制而非思想上最起码有点差别。你的爱人是你的力量，她是你存在的理由。 伯特兰·罗素说：“爱情不只是有性欲望，男男女女的一生中都要遭受孤独，而爱情是远离孤独的最好方法。” 你们的爱情可能有一天会给你带来伤痛，但是，万事都是有始也有终的。甚至，有一天，我姐姐要嫁人，我爱的人却说她想我们做朋友而不是做恋人。在我需要的时候，她能够和我聊天，我已经很高兴了，我也没有为她做些什么。世界上有很多人不喜欢我，毫无理由地喜欢上我的也寥寥无几。 我们需要感谢生活给了我们如此美丽和善良的感情，如果你是12到28岁的人的话，你会明白这些话的。一旦你失去了爱情，你就会理解我至今都还不明白的这个事实。 如果今天你想去见你的真爱的话，那就捎带着我最美好的祝福吧！ |
