8个理由提醒你：别再期待别人的认可

爱思英语编者按：人生最大的自由之一就是：不再在乎别人对你的评价。有时，你需要步出熙熙攘攘的人群，呼吸一番新鲜空气，并提醒自己：我是谁？我想成为什么样的人？最美妙的事情就是听从自己内心的呼唤，勇于挑战。不要再因担心别人的看法或者畏惧未知的事情，而被动接受安乐窝里的选择。只要你去做，一切都会安好！不要让那无关紧要的琐事，羁绊自己的思路，误以为自己的梦想太过虚幻—不是那么回事。

8 Reasons to Stop Waiting for Approval
8个理由提醒你：别再期待别人的认可

One of the greatest freedoms is simply not caring what everyone else thinks of you.  Sometimes you need to step outside, get some air, and remind yourself of who you are and what you want to be.  The best thing you can do is follow your heart.  Take risks.  Don’t just accept the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what others will think, or afraid of what might happen.  If you do, nothing will ever happen.  Don’t let small minds convince you that your dreams are too big.  They aren’t.
人生最大的自由之一就是：不再在乎别人对你的评价。有时，你需要步出熙熙攘攘的人群，呼吸一番新鲜空气，并提醒自己：我是谁？我想成为什么样的人？最美妙的事情就是听从自己内心的呼唤，勇于挑战。不要再因担心别人的看法或者畏惧未知的事情，而被动接受安乐窝里的选择。只要你去做，一切都会安好！不要让那无关紧要的琐事，羁绊自己的思路，误以为自己的梦想太过虚幻—不是那么回事。

Starting today, stop waiting for approval.  Here’s why:
从今天开始，别再等待别人的认可。这里告诉你为什么！

1.You only get one life to pursue the dreams that make you come alive. – It is better to be failing (and learning) at doing something you love, rather than succeeding at doing something you hate.  So take chances on behalf of what you believe in.  Fail until you succeed.  Make sacrifices and step out beyond the safety of your comfort zone over and over again.  Face your fears with courage and passion.  Keep your word and hold true to your vision until it comes to life.

1、人生在世，你只有这一次生命可以追逐自己的梦想。去做自己喜欢的事情，即使失败，也胜于在自己讨厌的事情上取得成功。所以请把握机会，追逐自己心的梦想，屡败屡战，直到成功。勇于牺牲，勇于走出舒适的避风港，一次次搏击人生。满载勇气和激情，直视你的恐惧。坚守自己的梦想，并努力把它付诸现实。

2.Someone else’s approval is just another opinion. – Never let someone’s opinion become your reality.  Never sacrifice who you are, or who you aspire to be, because someone else has a problem with it.  Love who you are inside and out, and keep pushing forward.  No one else has the power to make you feel small unless you give them that power.  You are the only one who can create your dreams and happiness.

2、别人的认可只是别人的观点。不要让别人的想法决定你的人生。永远不要忘记自己是谁，不要放弃自己的梦想，因为没有人比你更清楚这些。呵护自己的内心的选择，风雨无阻的前行。不经你的允许，没有人可以轻视你。你是自己梦想和幸福的唯一主宰。

3.The only opinion of you that really matters is your own. – In life, the thing that is really hard and really amazing is giving up on the desire to be perfect in the eyes of others, and beginning the journey of becoming your true self.  So let your love flow freely.  Because what you love determines your dreams, your dreams determine your actions, and your actions determine your destiny.

3、唯一值得在乎的是你自己的想法。实际生活中，放弃别人眼中完美的自己，开始起航真正的自我，是一件相当艰难的事情，但也很是意义非凡的抉择。所以，让自己的爱好自由飞翔。因为，爱好决定梦想，梦想决定行动，行动最终将决定你的命运。

4.Some people will never give you their approval anyway. – Do not let the negative opinions of others destroy your inner peace.  There are two kinds of people – those who are a drain on your energy and creative force, and those who give you energy and support your creativity, even with the simplest gesture, like a smile.  Avoid the first kind.  Be happy.  Be who you want to be.  If others don’t like it, let them be.  Happiness is a choice – YOUR choice.  Life isn’t about pleasing everyone. 

4、有些人永远不会认可你。不要让别人否认的目光扰乱你内心的平静。这世上有两种人：一种人会消耗你的能量和创造力；另一种人会给你能量，支持你的创造，或者只是一个简单的微笑。拒绝第一种人。让自己快乐起来，去做自己想做的人。有人不喜欢，由他去吧。快乐是一种选择—你的选择！活着不是为了取悦他人。

5.Everyone’s journey and perspective on life is totally different. – Who you are is what makes you extraordinary.  Do not change your unique foundation for anyone.  What lies ahead will always be a bit of a mystery.  Do not be afraid to explore, learn and grow.  Why some things happen will never be certain.  Take it in stride and move forward.  When life pushes you over, stand up and push back even harder.  Where there is a fork in the road and choices to make, make the one your future self will thank you for.

5、每个人生命的旅程和前途是完全迥异的。让你与众不同的一点就是：你是谁。不要为了任何人轻易改变自己的本质。未来永远是一个谜，不要害怕探索，求知，不要害怕成长。该来的总会来，只管迈开大步，勇敢前行。假如生活欺骗了你，站起来，要越挫越勇。当你面临需要抉择的岔路口时，做出让自己不会后悔的选择。

6.Firsthand experience is often necessary for personal growth. – Some life lessons can only be understood by going through them on your own.  Doing so allows you to form your own conclusions based on firsthand experience, rather than someone else’s subjective opinion.  This experience gives you the ability to think more logically and take educated steps in a positive direction. 

6、亲身体验通常是成长所必须的。关于生活的经验只有通过你自己的实践之后，才能转化成你的智慧。所以，要去尝试并积累经验，而不是依赖别人的意见。这种亲身的体验，可以让你更加理智的思考，然后朝着正确的方向，更加成熟稳重的前进。

7.Your intuition requires no approval. – When it comes to exercising your inner genius, you must try what you want to try, go where you want to go, and follow your own intuition.  Don’t accept false choices.  Don’t let others put a cage around your ideas. If it feels right, take a chance.  Because you never know how absolutely perfect it could turn out to be.  As Steve Jobs once said, “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice, heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become.  Everything else is secondary.”

7、你的直觉无需认可。当现实需要考验你内心的智慧时，一定要去尝试自己想要尝试的东西，去自己想去的地方，相信自己的直觉。不要接受错误的建议，不要让别人困扰你的想法。如果自我感觉良好，就去做吧，否则你永远也不会知道结局会有多么完美。乔布斯就讲过：“不要让别人的议论淹没你内心的声音，你的想法，和你的直觉。因为它们已经知道你的梦想，别的一切都是次要的。”

8.Life is too short to wait any longer. – If you knew for certain you had a terminal illness – if you had a very limited time left to live – you wouldn’t waste a minute of it.  Well wake up!  You do have a terminal illness; it’s called ‘life.’  In the grand scheme of things, you don’t have much time left – no one does.  So look around at this gift you’ve been given, as its miracles unfold before your eyes.  And choose to be happy, without approval – or you will never be at all.

8、生命短暂，经不起等待。假如你很确定自己得了不治之症，假如你已经感觉时间紧迫，那你真的没有时间可以浪费了！清醒吧，你确实有不治之症它叫“人生”！面对这样一个紧迫的现实，你没有时间可以等待---无人例外！环顾四周，看看人生的奇迹曾带给你怎样的礼物。选择快乐，别再等待别人的认可----否则你永远没有机会快乐！

And I will leave you with a quote to think about: “As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them.  Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you truly own yourself.”
最后给大家留一句名人名言：“一旦你为别人的看法所左右时，你已沦为别人的奴隶。只有当你不再等待别人的认可时，你才能真正主宰自己的命运。”