结婚之前 你需要知道这10件事
10 Relationship Facts Everyone Should Know Before Getting Married 1. Sharing the housework = more sex. Sharing is caring ― and sharing household chores could make for a really hot sex life. A 2015 study from the University of Alberta found that couples who divvy up cleaning tasks reported higher relationship satisfaction and got busy more often than couples who left it to one partner. 2. The honeymoon phase may be a myth. Don’t get too hung up on the hot-and-heavy phase fizzling out: the honeymoon phase may be more of a myth than a reality. 3. Most couples wait six years before going to marriage counseling ― but you should go sooner. The average couple who visits a marriage counselor has been struggling for about six years. By that time, some therapists say the damage has already been done. 4. Eye rolls could cost you. Contempt is one of the top predictors of divorce. Get a handle on those snarky remarks. According to marriage researcher John Gottman, contemptuous behavior like eye-rolling, sarcasm and name-calling is the number one predictor of divorce. 5. Cuddling is a game-changer in a long-term relationship. Big (and little) spoons, rejoice! A 2014 study out of the University of Toronto found that even a small amount of cuddling can produce substantial increases in sexual and relationship satisfaction, especially among women and parents of young children. 6. Arguing over finances early on doesn’t bode well for the marriage. It may not be the sexiest premarital convo but talking about money issues now rather than later could save you a world of heartache. 7. Men really benefit from getting married. A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who never tied the knot or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. They also live longer! 8. A few arguments every now and then are actually good for your marriage. If something isn’t sitting right with you and your partner, get vocal. 9. Divorce may be contagious. We don’t want to ruin your double date plans but the people you surround yourself with matter quite a bit. 10. Marriage is good for your heart. The jury is still out on whether single people or couples are healthier, but research suggests getting hitched is at least heart healthy. In one recent study out of New York University’s Lagone Medical Center, researchers found that married men and women had a five percent lower chance of cardiovascular disease compared to single folks. |