怎样有效转移话题
Answer and then immediately pivot. If you can pivot to something people will want to talk about, so much the better. For example, your family member asks you "What should we do about Syrian refugees?" and you don't really want to get into a fight. "I think we should be a welcoming country. For example, Donald Trump is the son of an immigrant, and a couple of his wives are immigrants too. I think a more urgent problem is the decline of the American family, celebrity culture and throwaway marriages..." A great technique is just to use the connector "yes, and…." or "yes you’re absolutely right and….."—you can then alter the conversation as you wish. By using such agreeable words, the brain is more likely to accept whatever comes next—it isn’t primed to critique or defend and is therefore much more accepting of a change. When dealing with challenging people who are a little difficult or perhaps speaking out of turn, the tip that I give is to turn a stupid question into a new conversation. The way you do this is to focus on the person who is speaking. People love to talk about themselves, so the way to change a conversation without them noticing is to ask them a question about themselves—whether it’s maybe a recent vacation or something about their children or grandchildren or something they like to do. Whatever it is, turn the focus on them rather than you, that way it’s not so noticeable. |