这些迹象表明,你可以对现任托付终身
1. YOU FEEL MOST LIKE YOURSELF WHEN YOU'RE WITH THEM Over the years, you've probably often heard the line, "You complete me" (thank you, "Jerry McGuire"). However, Jeffrey Sumber, psychotherapist, feels there is more to it. "In spite of popular opinion and what's said in movies, a partner doesn't complete us," he told Business Insider. "Although life with them feels complete, it's more important to feel complete yourself. Meaning, you feel a sense of peace, a 'rightness' to your own life when you're interacting with them, and feel most like yourself near them." 2. THEY PAY ATTENTION TO THE SMALL THINGS Another sign that you should marry your partner is that they not only pay attention to the big things that happen in your life, but they also celebrate the small things, too. "When your partner takes a genuine interest and authentic concern about the small things in your existence - from a troubling phone call with a family member to an irritating day at work - it's another sign," Sumber said. "The level of connection and healthy, safe attachment in a relationship can often be most evident in these seemingly minor issues, because our partner sits next to us and not above us," he said. 3. YOU HAVE KINDNESS AND MUTUAL RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER You've probably heard the phrase, "treat others how you want to be treated," and that's true when it comes to you and your partner, too. "When kindness is a shared primary value, it can mean great things for a relationship," Sumber said. "When both partners lead with just being nice and respectful to one another, there is a good chance that you have stumbled onto a gem of a person, and they might inspire you to be even more gem-like, too." 4. YOU HAVE A HEALTHY GIVE-AND-TAKE In addition to having good communication, being able to compromise is a key factor in maintaining a healthy relationship. "Great couples know that both partners need to give and take," Elmquist said. "This reciprocity allows for balance in a relationship over the long term." |