“帮我翻译个东西吧”——“给钱吗兄dei?”
我们常有这样的困惑,不怎么熟的人冷不丁的找上你让你给TA帮点忙,貌似也不主动提报酬,而且你自己手头事儿也不少,该答应还是不答应呢? 传统上,自己力所能及的小事儿,帮一下也就算了,顺水人情。不过就怕以后人家压根儿也不记得。 最近越来越多的人主张,你提的要求虽然是我能力范围内的事情,但也是我谋生的本事,辛辛苦苦培养出来的技能要给人免费打工,大概没有人会乐意。 reddit网站一名网友就有亲身经历,他说: I had my own gig designing...well, everything: websites, logos, ads, brochures, video, etc. Always got asked to do something for free because it “might lead to something else”. Did it a few times, nothing came out of it, then when I wanted to charge for something the person was outraged and basically stopped talking to me. 他的经历可能就是你的经历。有人在底下回复说: If your friend owns a business, don't ask for a friend discount or for some free products, a great friend is one that pays full price to support their friend. Real friends don't take advantage of their hardworking friends trying to make a living. Real friends try to help them out on their journey. 应付这样的情况也有妙招,有一名网友就支招说: That has happened to me so many times it stopped bothering me. People think nothing of asking their friend the designer to work for free. I started telling people that their design was going to take me an hour, cutting my grass takes an hour. If they'll come cut my grass I'll spend that hour working on their project. NOBODY has ever taken me up on it including the two friends with lawn care businesses. These days I just say no, I'm too backed up with paying work. 有偿劳动的确是必要的,毕竟现在的人到手的工资本就不多,北上广深的话交个房租等于腰斩,都没钱在啤酒里泡枸杞了。 Reddit网站对于现代社交总结了许多tips,我们汇编了一些,分享给大家。 If you are the only one trying to maintain a friendship, they aren't your friend and your time and energy would be better spent somewhere else. If someone is clearly depressed, prefers alone time, or needs your help before something bad happens, this is not the tip for you to follow. Please reach out to that person and let them know you care. But if you have friends who you consistently try to make plans with, they decline or take a rain check with a "oh we'll have to hang out soon" and never get back with you, yet you see them out with other friends all the time, then yes, this is very applicable. You deserve better friends. If you really want to connect with someone, take them for a long, scenic walk. Not being face to face takes some of the pressure off, and the scenery puts you in the right mood to open up. Don't ask people if they're free on a certain date without specifying why you're asking. Simply asking "are you free on Friday?" comes across like you're tricking the other person into doing whatever it is you want them to do. If you constantly vent your problems to someone, make sure to also call them when things are going well. Good listeners can sometimes get overwhelmed, and it's nice to hear positive news. To add to that, also make sure you're available to let them vent their problems. Relationships are a two way street. If you have a chore that you actually enjoy, never tell anyone you enjoy it. You'll do that chore for the rest of your days, even if you stop enjoying it. You get no credit for doing that chore, since it’s really not even a chore, right? |