闺蜜讨厌我的男朋友,我该怎么办?
1.) Ask them why they feel this way They might not have reasons for hating him that make any sense, and you might really have a tough time during this conversation. That's okay. It's not going to be that enjoyable for you (or for your friends). What matters is that you're listening and that you're not just telling your friends that because they say that they hate your boyfriend, you're never going to talk to them again. Chances are, you don't want to ruin your friendships over this. That would really be a shame. Remember that friends have different personalities and likes and dislikes. That's what makes friendship so interesting. We don't have to agree all of the time. 2.) Tell them that you love him and they need to accept that If your friends hate your boyfriend, that doesn't mean that you have to hate him and break up with him. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, right? It's possible that they're envious of you, especially if they're single or not happy in their own relationship. They could be projecting their feelings onto you. When you're in this situation, here's something that you should definitely do: tell your friends that you love your boyfriend and that they need to accept that. They might roll their eyes and say that they still don't think that you should be dating him, but that's okay. You don't need to change their minds (and you most likely can't since sometimes, when we have our minds made up about a friend's boyfriend, that's it). It's not ideal and you wish that they loved him as much as you do. You wish that they would say that they love seeing you so happy and that they understand exactly what you see in him. Unfortunately, that's not what is happening, and it's a good idea to remember that what matters is that you love him. 3.) At the same time, accept how they feel You're not going to want to do this. You'll tell your boyfriend that it's unfair and you think that your friends are being unreasonable and that it doesn't make any sense. But when your friends hate your boyfriend, this is another thing that you can do: accept how they feel. |